I have been there too and done it all; believe me. I have
played nice, played hardball, caused a big stir, and walked away from everything more than a few times. Sometimes I wish I could go back in time, start
all over somehow and get it right from the start. It's too late to go
back now, but over 40 years of living through mistakes, some of them on an epic
scale, has taught me a few things. One of the biggest things that I have
had to learn to do is allow time to celebrate victories, no matter how
small. Celebrating success is a
key survival technique and it works whether you are adrift on the ocean or foundering
in a rudderless organization, but you have come to the realization before you're completely out of gas.
Too often I see my brothers and sisters in the fire
service throw their hands up in surrender and cry, “Uncle!” as their organizational frustration reaches its zenith. The courage and perseverance that it takes to drive positive change and influence a cultural shift is much less spectacular than the story of one who quits in a fit of passion. I have been there, ready to quit, many times
myself. I had no place to be other
than where I was at the moment, yet I always wondered where I was going, I
always sought a better answer, and I couldn’t settle for the status quo. Like me or not, I push, constantly look
ahead, and ask, “What’s next?” I have experienced a lot of setbacks and heartburn along the way. I subscribed to the notion that you have to burn some bridges in order to light the way for change and I wasn't always successful in my approach.
"The courage and perseverance that it takes to drive positive change and influence a cultural shift is much less spectacular than the story of one who quits in a fit of passion."
I began working and pushing to the exclusion of everything
else. I began to equate success or
failure in my professional life with who I was, taking every perceived slight - no
matter how small - as a personal assault on my character. Part of the make up of people like us
is that we are ultra-competitive and we cannot tolerate losing. When we are not successful, either
individually or collectively, we take it very personally. All of this self-imposed pressure can
add up and we lose sight of the many small victories that add up to bigger,
more widespread successes. If you
don’t give yourself credit for the good that you do, focusing only on defeat, then there are no points for winning and the emotional toll will be
devastating.
Preventing burnout:
·
Don’t
become an island: Have a trusted group of peers to confide in; keep
open lines of communication with mentors.
Chances are one of your friends or mentors has been through the same
challenging circumstances and can offer guidance during trying times.
·
Delegate
responsibility: If
you’ve been leading right (allowing your people to lead from anywhere), you
have built the mechanism to step away when you need to. If you have talented and prepared
people around you allow them to shoulder some of your burden, it will keep you from being overloaded.
· Don’t let
setbacks define you: Don’t let what you weren’t able to get done overshadow what you were able to accomplish. My competitive nature has made this a difficult one for me. When faced with organizational
roadblocks, put your head down and continue to work at finding a positive
solution. If you can’t find one,
seek answers from outside of your organization and drive change from the
outside in.
It
is far too easy to dwell on the negative and wrap yourself in a cocoon of
self-pity. Sometimes you have
to walk away to see if anyone will notice. If the noise you were making is truly for the good of the
organization they will notice how quiet it is and come looking for you to ask
for your help. If you do decide to walk away, rest assured that the machine will continue to function without your contributions, you must be prepared for that.
There is a difference between
compromise and being compromised. Compromise is an agreement or a
settlement of a dispute by two sides making concessions. Compromised is
to weaken a reputation or principle by accepting standards that are lower than
what is considered acceptable. It is possible to compromise on an issue
without compromising your principles.
Change what you can change
and put the rest aside in the short term. The big battles will still be there
when you get back, better to chip away at them over time than to try to break
off a large piece all at once. The burden you bear will lessen, and your river
of personal pessimism will recede because you will witness the positive fruits
of your labor in the development of others around you.
